[life] SR exp

Before the argument

• She doesn’t need to like you, she needs to respect you
• Obligations don’t work
• Space is important
• Don’t be thirsty, do purpose, let her come
• No fear

In the argument

• Don’t argue anything
• Stand up for myself, point it out
• Never answer anything logically, never explain
• Be honest about my feelings, stand my ground
• I make the rules
• Reply light
• When you react, you become part of it

After the argument

• Don’t show anger just leave
• Take away attention
• Feel it, accept it, transcend it
• uncertainty, unavailability done congruently creates attraction
• come from position of strength
• listen