[life] mindset - bullet points

• heal yourself first
• love life, live better first
• show value
• show non needy
• show pre-selection
• self amuse
• let them invest
• chess game, think reaction
• try again, revive it
• she pulls back, you pull back
• but even better, preemptive, pull back availability first
• steps, soft close, before hard close
• give offer, don't chase, take it or leave it
• need options, for abundance
• assume attraction, we should______
• desensitize anxiety
• don't chase (unconditional) , screen (conditional)
• don't validate freely
• don't pedestal
• don't please
• reframe, not will she like me, but will I like her
• social calibration / raise interest > then intent (text)
• resolve the underlying issue
• when it's good, need to pull back, or will get ghosted
• don't show hurt, show strength, be grateful something happened
• protect from gossip after sex, be silent
• strategize, think different options, then act
• when she comes back, there has to be punishment, ask for something
• assertive, make something happen, closing is necessary, need to close, yes, but don't close on a bad note
• don't give pressure, don't try that hard (trying too hard cheapens my value)
• don't explain the joke (explaining lowers value)
• being high value, is believing you don't have to try so hard
• uncertainty equals attraction
• stay a challenge, stay uncertain, so she can chase, this is what she wants
• preemptive, ask for a favor, to get the power back, this is counter intuitive but it works
• admit sexual attraction is good (don't admit love)
• fun and flirty vibe is good (white knight loving vibe is not good, is a turn off)
• we all don't like game, but you have to keep gaming, that is just human nature
• understand female nature, don't get mad, accept it and play the game correctly

• show value (don't say chilling, say finished a podcast)
• love your life first, then invite others (don't love woman first) (this is the mistake I made of putting woman first, then messing it up)
• self amuse (fun, funny, flirty)
• let them invest (come to my house, can you buy me something little)
• chess game, think reaction (if one word answer, change phrasing)
• try again, revive it (but wait 2-3 days, non neediness)
• pull back availability (non neediness) (establish something first gradually pull back) (so she can chase me) (woman only date up, so chasing never works) (don't text after sex, this is showing neediness)
• take risks (polarity)
• steps, soft close, before hard close (soft close is adventure, next week, hard close is details)
• give offer, don't chase, take it or leave it (don't keep asking meetup)
• need options, for abundance (so you don't chase)
• assume attraction, we should hang out (don't say do you want to hang out or not)
• don't chase, screen, use screening, leaving, as a form of getting to know you, chasing is unconditional, screening is conditional
• validation, which means non sexual attention is precious
• social calibration first, then intent (sexualization is just a spice) (made no intent mistake before) (also made over intent weirdo mistake before)
• understand female nature, human nature, not capable of love (why she is not capable of love, is because I didn't play my cards right) don't get mad